"All the Japanese men want Japanese girls. All the Foreign men want Japanese girls."
 
Thus my white girl friend sums up the predicament of caucasian women in Japan.  But ladies, I'm really on your side! Let's examine this together, shall we? Why do all the fellas want Japanese girls?

 

Girl: "They're so submissive!" (previously: "They act like children", "They dress like children", "They're stick-thin!")

 

Hmm. Why do you think that is?

 

Girl: "They're naive and uninformed."

 

And since can't make yourself stupider, you can't ever play on their field. Puh-Leeze! Guys do like smart girls. It's an evolutionary thing. We descend from those who spawned with the cave-girl next door who could light a fire, not those who chose miss 'most likely to drop the cave-baby'. Furthermore, guys will break it off with a girl who they can not communicate intellectually with. So much for the good news. The bad news is that you may have to re-think how you define 'smart' and 'communicate'.

 

Let me get straight to the point. 'Informed' does not solely mean knowledgeable. 'Communicate' does not solely mean to logically state your case. Merely arguing and giving your opinions will make other GIRLS avoid you, let alone guys.

 

Besides, if you have met any Japanese girls you will know they are far from uninformed.

 

Girl: "Alright then, they're two-faced."

 

You may have a point. The Japanese have 'game face' down to a fine art. In their overblown politeness they have even adopted a foreign word for it: 'manner', as if it's perfectly natural to completely bend our personalities for each situation. Unfortunately it's as misleading as it is endearing. You see, guys like girls who will not diss them in front of their mates. Guys like girls who look like they're making an effort to listen to him. Guys like girls who want to use our limited time together relaxing instead of quarrelling. However, guys who think they're getting Geisha Barbie have got a rude shock coming. Going out dating is a different situation to staying home married, and the 'game face' ... changes.

 

But the West has a similar concept: discretion. It's fallen into disrepute through cowboy and cop films urging us to indulge our true natures to the point where the word conjures images of shady lawyer deals. Still, You'd find it hard to argue that knowing what to say and when to say it is an undesirable trait.

 

So then, what is the difference between you and Japanese girls?

Is it the weight? No. Other skinny girls feel ignored too.
Is it the dress? No. Well groomed girls get no love either.
Is it the behaviour? No. Guys prefer down to earth girls over unbalanced ones.
Is it the dumbness? No. And being discrete is not being submissive.

 

Final Word
When the American auto industry suffered in the early eighties, Detroit blamed Japanese manufacturers. The problem was two-fold: imported cars were cheap, efficient, and reliable, and local cars were not. However, lobbying for protection and lambasting buyers for choosing imports drained resources that could otherwise have been spent improving their designs and processes. So too, many girls condemn guys for preferring Japanese girls when in fact the preference is a myth. These girls also condemn their Japanese counterparts for being healthy (if a little thin), well-groomed, polite, and discrete, ignoring in the mean time that these are universal qualities that they could foster in themselves.

 

Blaming someone else will always be less painful than introspection. Guys and Japanese girls. Let's say those are the only problems with getting a date in this country. Take them away and what are we left with? You.